I guess I was just hoping there was way for it to work. Props to people who do. I pray almost daily that his schedule will get better once we both started working, but I'm constantly concerned that I'll be doing most things alone too. I am realizing now, after leaving my job, selling my house, moving ect…. I am so grateful to have had the ability to instill in them that family comes first.
He is in a way to become a Ex mormon. I married someone that wasn't of my faith and it worked great. If she doesn't care that you aren't a member now, if your relationship goes on long enough, she is going to care eventually. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages.
LDS theology heavily promotes the idea that marriage and family are an important source of happiness in this life, not just the next. Trust Building Exercises for Couples. There are many professions that leave the spouse carrying the bulk of every day family life. Though I am yet to see if we would make it. And your future kids will be taught that you are the reason they don't have an "eternal" family. More success stories All success stories Hide success stories. In my experience, life-long member, many Mormons have difficulty thinking outside the box, and putting forth effort to inclue and love.
Some day he hopes to make it to Romania and settle down. I'd at least insist that at 12 the kids can choose to disaffiliate. I keep the positive thought that it will get better. It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from.