Much good luck, and keep us in the loop. He really was awful to women and should've come with a warning sticker. He wants me to sit around while he does his stuff. I can be part of a church family whether my spouse goes or not. It is the greatest sadness of her life. It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from. Iam 24, my bf going to move to Troy NY for his master he ask me to move with him, I want to but Iam afraid we will never get married.
In many ways, she was everything that I ever wanted in a spouse, but in other ways she was not what I ever expected. By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort. I think our entire family feels the loneliness including himself. I think the only thing that can possibly be worse is if he was working in a different country. Her brain has been wired from birth by said cult. That is a goal worth fighting for. The odds are definitely not in OPs favor for something like this working for him. I wouldn't purposefully subject my daughters to that BS.
Everything we do when we are together seems to be pre-planned and must be executed just so, right down to unexpectedly turning off the lights at And I can relate to the walking on eggshells feeling when they are home. It has been very therapeutic to read about other people's experiences. I pray the holy Spirit will provide guidance to both of us, and that love conquers all. That said, Mormons have learned to have fun without alcohol and often have to wait until drinkers are well-oiled and loosened up to join in the dopey-ness. As for deciding to marry someone who is not mormon, here is how I made the decision. Next year we are getting married but I already see a tough life ahead of me. My family is pretty awesome in the church. He never has time for me.
If my mother needed her surgeon's attention, I wouldn't want him to be thinking about his wife's lamenting that he's never home, not romantic, etc. The rest of it is all just the normal course of events for someone in this situation, but this isn't a good sign: If he were thinking about you, he'd contact you when he does have the rare free minute or two. For whatever reason, none of them ever seemed that interested in me I freely admit this could have been cluelessness on my partand so never turned serious. We have been married a mere 3. Maybe it was because I was so young when I made the choice, maybe it was because I was the oldest child in an extremely active family with parents that just expected me to be a shining example to the younger kids.
